How to Progressively Achieve a Ruined Life
Want to bring your life to ruin? Take pleasure in dealing with miserable family relationships? Look no further – This is the article for you.
I once thought myself a good man, a man of high standards, a man of strong moral fiber. However, at the youthful age of 49, I learned that even good men do bad things. It takes, my friend, but a moment for a good man to fall. But that is not the typical path to a ruined life. To craft miserable family relations, you must practice a routine of poor life choices.
In 2011, I watched not only my own self-destruction but also saw the pain and sufferings such failure evoked upon my children, my wife, and all other family relations. I did three years in prison but that barely touches a candle to the accumulated guilt, shame and pain of failing my family and myself. Yet those days are finished. My fall was not the result of one single and consistent wrong-minded decision – I refused to acknowledge my need for a Savior.
Things have turned. I am back home, my family fully restored, and my mind better equipped to prevent future failure. But even if you don’t believe in Jesus Christ, know this: A pattern of wrong-minded thinking results in a life without joy, a family without peace, and a never ending battle with bitterness.
Herein are nine steps that assure a ruined life and a broken family. For the sake of those who reject Holy Scripture, I put the steps that lead to self-destruction and miserable family relations up front. Take a moment in self-examination. Perhaps at least one of these truths will move you to read further into the article.
- v. 16 – Join forces with the enemies of God
- v. 19 – Ignore consequences of current lifestyle and decision-making process
- v. 21 – Rob God and others
- v. 22 – Reject chastisement
- v. 23 – Change alliance (Put your trust in the false gods of secular society)
- v. 24 – Shut down communications
- v. 25a – Push false truths
- v. 25b – Encourage others to sin
- v. 25c – Provoke God to wrath.
A Deeper Look Into The Causes of Human Failure
The lesson begins in the second half of 2-Chronicles chapter 28. Herein a man called Ahaz, King of Judah, models the nature of sinful living and the consequences of rejecting a right understanding of Godly principles. This man’s wrong-minded spiritual comprehension and his wrong-minded physical decision-making process lead an entire nation into spiritual, physical and financial ruin.
Use this story as an example. Even as wrong-minded thinking destroys a nation so too will wrong-minded decisions destroy a family unit.
We pick up the story with a nation that is already under holy chastisement. Judah has been attacked by both the nation of Aram and the nation of Israel. Herein are the consequences of pursuing a wrong-minded spiritual and physical path course of action.
1) Step one toward a ruined life and a broken family – Seek help and advise from the wrong sources. Iron sharpens iron. If your help has no iron, they will merely add to your woes. So do all that you can to avoid wise instruction.
As a result of on-going troubles, king Ahaz commits the first step toward assured national destruction. He reaches out for help from an enemy of God. Thus more chastisement comes upon the king, the nation, and even those who would not follow his wickedness. The Edomites and the Philistines raid the towns and the foothills. They take captives. And the lessons that should be learned remain unlearned.
2) Step two toward an assured shipwrecked life and family troubles – Ignore the consequences of your current decisions. Everyone messes up. Some folks learn from their errors, others blame someone else for the problem. In most events, the fault is yours. Stop blaming and start changing.
As we continue reading, we see that time after time Ahaz ignores chastisement. Rather than acknowledging error, he seeks to promote even greater wickedness in the land. Versus 20 reveals
“Tiglath-Pileser king of Assyria came to him, but he gave him trouble instead of help,” (2-Chr. 28:20).
3) Step three in promoting a ruined life and a broken family – Seek to live off the income of others. This assures that you never take personal responsibility for your own problems. And under no circumstances should you consider taking a course in financial management.
Rather than recognizing the cause of failure, king Ahaz took to robbing the temple of God. Furthermore, he stole things that belonged to the officials within the royal palace. And then even worse, he misused that which he had stolen.
No one owes you a living, not even God. Stop planning your life around the income of friends, parents and charity. Learn to use your funds wisely. And do take that course in financial management.
4) Step four in the path to personal and family destruction – Refuse to acknowledge the reality of a living God. Consider all Scripture foolishness, even that which soundly addresses the practical principles of financial prosperity.
As the trouble increased, King Ahaz became even more unfaithful to the Lord. This is a mark of bitterness and bitter people often cease to hear the words of wisdom that come from friends and loved ones. Rather than seeking and learning from those who follow a path that leads to successful living, people who live a ruined live become bitter that successful people refuse to support a pattern of wrong-minded decisions. Furthermore, these same foolish people grow more and more resentful concerning any form of Godly wisdom from Scripture. They cannot see that even unbelievers can prosper by following wisdom as defined by the word of God.
5) Step five in the way to a ruined home and family – Change alliances. When family and loved ones cease to support your wrong-minded decision making find another ear and a different voice on which to lean.
King Ahaz saw the success of the kings of Aram thus he believed that the gods of Damascus were of greater power than the true God of Israel. Scripture records it in this manner, “He offered sacrifices to the gods of Damascus, who had defeated him; for he thought, “Since the gods of the kings of Aram have helped them, I will sacrifice to them so they will help me.” But they were his downfall and the downfall of all Israel,” (2-Chr 38:23).
Even as the god of sexual pleasure can lead to deadly sicknesses, financial ruin, or prison, so too can the god of prosperity can lead to drugs, shady business dealings, and endless poor life choices. Ahaz surrender his soul on a false hope. He was dishonest, untrustworthy, unfaithful and seemingly committed to continuing in blind foolishness. Stop seeking the easy way out. Be honest in your dealings with men and God. Learn what is right and live accordingly,
Even a miserable family relationship is better than aligning with other wrong-minded thinkers. Success need not involve money or pleasure. Sometimes success is merely the joy of providing for yourself and your family. Before turning away from family and friends, consider the measure of their success.
6) Step six in assuring the ruin of life and family – Shut down communications. Harden your ears and heart. Let no one in your family tell you have to live or where to invest or how to spend your money and time.
See here how it works: “Ahaz gathered together the furnishings from the temple of God and cut them in pieces. He shut the doors of the Lord’s temple and set up altars at every street corner in Jerusalem,” (2-Chr. 28:24).
Changing alliances often means that you must close the door to communications with old alliances. When you cease to hear the voice of reason, expect misery in your family and to find rubble in your personal life.
7,8,9) Three steps that assure a ruined life and miserable family relations – 1) Follow and push error; 2) Encourage others to walk in foolishness; and 3) Provoke others to resentment and wrath. Misery loves company. If you can gain support and followers, you will have people to help you experience the misery, share the bitterness, and assure your failure.
In the last verse of our Scripture, we see King Ahaz building throughout the land of Judah false altars so as to encourage and force support for his foolish decision-making process. And in the end, we see that this above all aroused the anger of the God.
Wrong-Minded Thinking Guarantees a Lack of Joy in You and Your Family Relations
Your wrong-minded decisions affect your entire family. Young children believe in their parents so rest assured that the words of “wisdom” that come from your tongue will eventually come out of their mouths. Your wife or your husband, even if they disagree with your choices, will tend to support your wrong-minded choices – at least for a little spell. At least, typically, until it is too late to prevent the pain.
My friend, you are accountable for the sins that you lead others to commit. On your shoulders reside the future welfare of your children, your mate, and all who will listen and follow the wrong-minded words that lead to ruin and destruction. The steps are simple. Take careful note so that you leave out nothing. Making yourself into a failure is only the beginning. To be perfectly successful you must also make your family miserable.
The path to a ruined life is yours for the taking. Let it begin…..